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This blog shares the latest news about {So Happi Together}, an event design and planning firm, along with my personal inspirations, ideas and love musings.

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nancy

Thankful Journals

Monday, August 31, 2009

We have now been married a little over two months and people always ask us, "So, how is newlywed/married life?" ;D (that's the big smile that usually accompanies their question).

Honestly, it is a big mixed bag of emotions! On the plus side: it is fun, exciting and new. On the slight minus side: it is hard, trying and new. Eddie grew up in a family of all boys. I grew up in a family of all girls. You do the math. We never lived together before marriage and, actually, neither of us have ever lived with another significant other. Even though we dated for 7 years and knew each other for over 10, there is just so much more to learn about each other in a married context, under one roof. When we were dating, we would always look forward to the day when we would have our own place to go home to, so that we wouldn't have to say goodbye or goodnight to each other. Now that we have our own place, I think it is easy to take it for granted when worrying about bills, chores and what's for dinner. Being newlyweds during such a horrible economic time in American history is also pretty scary and both of us have jobs that have been hit pretty hard by the downturn. Still, we are very blessed and grateful to God that we have jobs at all! And I need to remind myself how many things I have in life to be thankful for...

Basically, I feel like it's so easy to be a bit of a debbie-downer in the midst of the craziness of newlywed life. So much has happened that it is easy to forget the little (and big) blessings that have placed us at this point in our life together. This often happens for brides as well! In the busy-ness of planning your wedding, finding vendors and managing your budget, it is easy to forget the happiness and true reason for the occasion - uniting you with your love, for life! :)

my journal to eddie

Anyways, because I knew this could happen to me during wedding planning, my wedding present to Eddie was a thankful journal. We were engaged for 19 months. So, one year before our wedding date, I started a thankful journal and wrote in it everyday, for 365 days, right up to the morning of the wedding. Every day I wrote one reason why I was thankful for Eddie and why I wanted to marry him. It could be as short as one sentence and as long as a page. In the end, it sort of chronicled the last year of our engagement because I usually wrote about something that had come up that day... like something he said to me, or did for my family or accomplished at school/work.

eddie reading the journal on our wedding day. his best man said he teared up!


Now, back to the question about what newlywed/married life is like. As I said before, it can be hard. But my cousin suggested that anytime we argue, we should watch our wedding video, and we recently did! I was reminded of the thankful journal I gifted to Eddie for our wedding and I figured... why don't I start keeping one again? I used to keep them all the time, just for myself, to remind myself to be thankful at all times and in all situations. I would write 5 things I was thankful for everyday and it worked as a sort of prayer journal as well. And sometimes it was difficult to come up with 5 separate things, but it did challenge me to practice being thankful!

So, I know a lot of brides, wives and people in general may be facing difficult times right now (especially with our economy being the way it is) and I just wanted to put this little encouraging note out there to suggest trying to find things to be thankful for, so as not to be overwhelmed by all the other stuff! You'll be surprised at the power of positive thinking! And if you do decide to start a thankful journal, for yourself or someone you love, here are some great options!

classic moleskine


Snow & Graham dogwood letterpressed composition notebook


Snow & Graham eucalyptus letterpressed composition notebook


Orla Kiely signature stem print journal


Orla Kiely car print, travel journal
I have this one and LOVE it because it is the perfect little size to fit in my purses and take along with me everywhere!



Paper Source, gratitude journal
could it BE more perfect?


Paper Source, elephant and nemo journal
this is the one I used for Eddie. He like elephants and I like classic composition journals.



Brooklyn Book Binder on etsy.
She is one of my favorites! We custom ordered our guest sign-in book from her and the process was super easy with the result being super wonderful!



more views of hand-bound journals by Brooklyn Book Binder


more views of hand-bound journals by Brooklyn Book Binder

Thank YOU for reading! :) I would love to hear what some of you are thankful for!!

10 comments:

connieMchung said...

what a sweet post. i am thankful for friends and family.

Esther said...

Oh MY GOSH!!! Nancy! Your blog is GREAT! I'm so glad we were able to chat for a bit on Sunday! It's been hard keeping up with all the wedding blogs out there lately but I'll be sure to visit often and if there's any brides who needs your services, I'll definitely refer you~ talk to you soon!!! btw, I can't believe you wrote a journal for Eddie for 365 days. That's crazy.. :)

susanna said...

nancy! what an AWESOME blog! i love the new wedding business you're starting :) i'll be sure to refer any friends that are getting married to you & your website :D you have so many awesome suggestions/ideas~ i wish i found your blog before i got married...hehe :P xoxo :)

Queen Happyberry said...

Thank you! Thank you! :) Especially for the sweet offers regarding referrals! I am really so thankful for friends and family as well... and interestingly enough, lately I am thankful to be meeting old friends in new ways.

gracemejin said...

omg! i have that car journal too! we are truly blogmates!!!

thank you for your honesty about marriage...and i love the idea of your thankful journey.

gracemejin said...

look what i saw:

http://junebugweddings.com/blogs/what_junebug_loves/archive/2009/09/03/phenomenal-photography-animals-at-wedding.aspx

Queen Happyberry said...

gracie!! Thanks for dropping in and with that great link! I love junebug and what she loves! ;) You are too sweet for sharing when I am sure you have so much on your plate right now! the day is quickly approaching!!! xoxo!

bonny said...

awww ..

Adri said...

My sister stumbled upon your blog and found you. I am SO going to do this for my fiance. We found Tomato through your blog and Vivian is doing my dress! Thank you for all your suggestions and ideas! LOVE!

nancy {So Happi Together} said...

Hi Adri!

Thank you for stopping by. I am so happy that my blog can be a source of information and inspiration! I am sure Vivian is going to do a fabulous job with your dress and your fiance will treasure his journal! xo!